Managing Negativity

Most people will experience feelings of inferiority at some point within their lifetime which can quite easily lead to negativity and pessimism. If you start comparing yourself unfavourably to somebody else, it is vital to try and recognise what you’re doing and stop yourself before the thoughts turn to negative self-talk. Understand that these feelings are a natural human vulnerability that most people face and can be changed.

Common Symptoms of negativity

There are many different symptoms associated with negativity, nerves and the complicated nature of dealing with egotistical people, but thankfully, there are some practical tips that can be taken from the singing world that can be used in many different circumstances to reduce negativity and ensure you are operating at the top of the game consistently.

Sweaty hands

If you feel your hands get sweaty and clammy, there are a few things you can do to reduce the excess sweating. Regularly washing your hands and carrying a pocket-size hand gel are two failproof tactics.

Uptight shoulders

Some people find that their shoulders start to get tight when nerves kick in. This generally occurs when people are overthinking or trying too hard to please and impress others. To remedy stress-induced uptight shoulders, relax your shoulders and breathe in and out naturally.

Wobbly legs

If you feel your feet shaking or your legs moving around and you’re not sure why it’s often a sign of nervousness! Try to overcome these nerves by saying “I AM STRONG” to yourself. As you say it to yourself, keep deeply breathing in and out, and try to do something as simple as smiling to bring you some joy.

Shifty eyes

Allowing your eyes to dart around the room can make others sense your anxiety and, in turn, make them feel uncomfortable. As you speak or sing, try to keep a gentle fixed gaze for a short while. Be aware of your eyes and what you’re looking at, and try to keep your movement as natural as possible.

Top tips

Take every opportunity you can to hone your craft of performing. Whether it is as simple as singing with friends or performing in front of a crowd, the more experience you get singing along with others, the more comfortable you’ll feel doing so. This increased comfort will minimise nerves and negativity.
Face your fears, learn from your mistakes and constantly test the waters by doing new things.
Regularly look inwards at yourself to discover areas of yourself that you feel can benefit from self-improvement. As a result of doing so, you’ll see yourself beginning to look outwards to see how you relate to people and working on yourself to become a more relatable and amicable person.